3 Quick Tips to Become a Couple with Clear Purpose

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ave you ever finished a really big project with amazing results? I’d be willing to say it started with a goal and followed a plan until it was finished. Most amazing things start with a goal and follow a plan, why should your life be any different? Setting goals as a couple can be one of the most rewarding things you can do to make your marriage better.

A while ago, Adam came to me with the idea of setting goals for our life together. I am beyond blessed to be married to this wonderful husband of mine. With this idea, Adam and I have decided that each year on our anniversary, we will set some time aside to dream and plan as a team.

Where to Set Goals

We talk about our goals with our finances, the direction of our jobs, paying off debt, where we want to travel– our goals for 6 months, 1 year, 3 years, and 5 years. We also assess the previous year’s to see how we have done and talk about what we have accomplished.

I love this part of the year; I love being able to tackle big goals together and see how we are going to accomplish them.

It’s amazing to see where God has worked the previous year and where we feel Him leading our hearts for the following year. Planning together unifies us into a team as we work together through this journey of life.

  1. Dream and Talk About Your Goals

  2. Pursuing goals will help to bring you closer as a couple. And it’s just fun to dream together. I would encourage you to take some time with your spouse to talk about your goals. When we are couples with purpose, then God can do amazing things. Don’t let life just happen to you, think about where you want to be and what you need to do to get there.

  3. Write Your Goals Down!

  4. Statistics say that people who write down their goals are more likely to accomplish them than those who don’t. Don’t just talk about them, WRITE THEM DOWN. Once you have written them down, put them in a visible place so you can see them on a daily basis.

    “A goal without a plan is just a wish.”
    – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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  5. Use Your Goals to Guide Decisions

  6. Once you’ve set your goals, use them to guide each decision that you make throughout the year. Ask yourselves, “Is this choice going to bring us closer to achieving our goals or slow us down? Start becoming one minded in purpose. I can’t emphasize enough how incredible it is to pursue goals together, especially once you start to see just how much you can achieve!

Question: Have you set goals as a couple? What are you working towards right now? Let us know in the comments below!

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