The Real Definition of a Provider

The Real Definition of a Provider

A man naturally feels a strong desire to provide for his family. This is a God-given desire. However, as a culture, we have defined “provision” as purely financial. While it’s good to provide financially, God calls husbands to a much higher standard. The call for a...

Confronting Our Sin and Wrestling with Responsibility

Confronting Our Sin and Wrestling with Responsibility

There we were in the middle of one of the biggest fights we had had in a long time. Tensions were rising. Hurtful words were said. And I was desperately clutching to my pride. I feel things incredibly deeply... I think more deeply than most people. So when I begin to...

Pillow Talk: God’s Design for Sex

Pillow Talk: God’s Design for Sex

I’ve often heard husbands using bible verses to guilt their wives into sex, saying that their wife isn’t following what the bible says if they don’t submit to them sexually. I’ve also heard of wives using sex (or the lack of) to punish or reward their husbands for...

Embracing a “Mary” Heart in a “Martha” World

Embracing a “Mary” Heart in a “Martha” World

I had just sat down with my latte and cracked open a new devotional. I was so excited to start digging in. This devotional was a few hundred pages and would probably take me a while to get through. I was ready to be challenged and learn something new. As I started to...

Choosing Thankfulness over Frustration

Choosing Thankfulness over Frustration

If you’ve read my previous blog, you know I tend to analyze things to death, often focusing solely on the flaws. After writing that blog, I saw another important lesson that I missed the first time. Not only do I often see the worst in myself, but I tend to see the...

Confessions of an Insecure Person

Confessions of an Insecure Person

I have a confession: I struggle with insecurity. I’m afraid of rejection and it manifests itself in a deep-rooted anxiousness. I have a drive to perform that is out of a doubt that I am valuable. I constantly feel the need to prove myself worthy. I struggle to see my...

Left-Brained and Still Loved

Left-Brained and Still Loved

I’m pretty much the poster-child for the extreme left-brained. I look at the world in such an analytical way. I love to figure out how things work, so I try out theories in my brain to find the point of failure in any given thing. Chalk it up to my days studying...

Getting out of a Funk in Your Marriage

Getting out of a Funk in Your Marriage

Have you ever had one of those weeks where things just felt off with you and your spouse? We have. There was about a three week period where we were just missing each other and taking out our stress on one another. I was hormonal and moody and Adam was anxious and...

Trading Our Ability for God’s Security

Trading Our Ability for God’s Security

Stability. Certainty. Familiarity. It’s something we all crave. In the famous words of Dorothy, “There’s no place like home.” These words ring especially true for me. I’m an introvert, so I like having a predictable, quiet space to relax and get my thoughts in order....

5 Prayers of Protection for Your Marriage

5 Prayers of Protection for Your Marriage

Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” It’s when a husband and wife are both seeking the Lord and submitting themselves to Him, that they can make a great impact for the...

8 Simple Steps to a Lifelong Marriage

8 Simple Steps to a Lifelong Marriage

As I was growing up, I was a pretty quiet kid. I didn’t say much, but I was always watching. In our church group, I paid special attention to one family. The husband had a sharp mind for business and was always trying something new. He and his wife led a bible study...

Dear Hurting Wife…

Dear Hurting Wife…

Dear hurting wife, I remember when I was walking through so much hurt in the midst of my marriage, I felt as though my dreams of a happy marriage were meaningless. The words “happily ever after” brought resentment and misery, rather than joy. I mourned not having the...

A Marriage Journey

A Marriage Journey

One night a young husband dreamed that he and his wife were walking along a long dirt road. It was the path of their lives as they headed toward heaven. The road wound through a valley surrounded by hills. It was beautiful, quiet, and they rarely saw anyone else for...

To Submit or Not to Submit?

To Submit or Not to Submit?

Submission is probably one of the most controversial words in the English language. At least in marriage conversations. This word has caused division between married couples-- husbands abusing the word and, using it as an excuse to react with control, pride, and...

Money Matters: How to Build a Functional Budget as a Team

Money Matters: How to Build a Functional Budget as a Team

This is the second part of a two-part series on money. Check out Part 1 here: Money Matters: How to Talk about Money Without an Argument One of the more difficult steps early in marriage is working to combine finances and spending styles. We’re strong advocates of all...

Money Matters: How to Talk about Money Without an Argument

Money Matters: How to Talk about Money Without an Argument

This is the first part of a two-part series on money. Part 2 is available here: Money Matters: How to Build a Functional Budget as a Team One of the biggest topics of conflict in marriage is money. When you combine two lives and two established financial styles that...

Pillow Talk: 11 Secrets to a Great Sex Life

Pillow Talk: 11 Secrets to a Great Sex Life

Let’s talk about sex. If you asked me before I got married, I would have told you that one of the things I was most excited for was sex. I couldn’t wait to be connected to Adam in such an intimate way. I thought our honeymoon was going to just be us in our hotel room...

5 Reasons to Praise Your Spouse

5 Reasons to Praise Your Spouse

When was the last time you received a kind word? How did it make you feel? Praise is something we all like to receive, even if we’re a bit sheepish about it sometimes. It’s no different in a marriage-- in fact, it’s just as important to praise your spouse whether or...

Pursuing God’s Will Together in the Midst of Big Decisions

Pursuing God’s Will Together in the Midst of Big Decisions

Have you ever had to make a major decision in your life? In the midst of these decisions, it can be so easy to try to make them on our own. I’ve had many conversations with people where they talk a lot about what they’re going to do, but don’t bring God to the center...

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The Gift of True Rest

The Gift of True Rest

Rest. It’s an important part of life. Without sleep, we stop functioning well. Without mental rest and time to unplug, we can end up struggling with burnout, overload, and anxiety. Thankfully, we have days off in our week, and extra days off as holidays. Jess and I...

6 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Strong While Living With Others

6 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Strong While Living With Others

The past six months have felt like a whirlwind. Back in June, our landlord decided to sell the house that we’d lived in for four years. We had been extremely blessed to rent a four bedroom house for the cost of a studio in one of the country’s most expensive real...

6 Tips for Handling the Holidays Like a Boss

6 Tips for Handling the Holidays Like a Boss

Are you stressed about the idea of planning holidays with your family, your spouse’s family, and also wanting to have your own traditions? Family expectations can lead to quite a bit of frustration. Honestly, I never really understood how holidays could be stressful...

Building a Strong Little House

Building a Strong Little House

In amateur theater (based on my very limited middle-school acting experience), the sets are designed to look good from the audience. Nobody will ever be close enough to them that the paint needs to be perfect. Sometimes, props were held together with duct tape on the...

Shifting Away from Entitled Expectations

Shifting Away from Entitled Expectations

Do you ever have big dreams or deep desires that remain unfulfilled no matter what you do? I know I do. What’s funny though is that our plans almost never turn out how we think they should. Through experiencing those unmet expectations, I’ve grown more deeply in my...

11 Irrevocable Truths about God’s Love for You

11 Irrevocable Truths about God’s Love for You

Thanksgiving. For many, it brings to mind turkey, pie, and time with family. For me, it brings to mind those things, but also the very opposite--loneliness and a very very empty house. You see, four years ago, on the day before Thanksgiving, my world fell apart. At...

Taking a Stand Against Abuse in Your Marriage

Taking a Stand Against Abuse in Your Marriage

Just 5 months into our marriage, I had to take a stand. I ended up leaving my husband the day before our first Thanksgiving as a married couple. When I look back on that day that I left, I am beyond thankful for so many things. God orchestrated all of the events and...

A Wife’s Greatest Protector

A Wife’s Greatest Protector

What does it mean for a husband to be responsible for his wife? Does it mean that it’s his sole responsibility to protect her at every moment of every day from the moment of his wedding vows forward? Does it mean that he needs to go everywhere with her to make sure...

Marriage: Our Greatest Mission

Marriage: Our Greatest Mission

When I think about the couples that have been most meaningful in my life, three or four come to mind. These couples have encouraged me to grow deeper in my relationship with the Lord and they’ve been a huge support for me as a wife. There were times when they directly...

No Exit Strategy: 11 Ways to Be “All-In” In Your Marriage

No Exit Strategy: 11 Ways to Be “All-In” In Your Marriage

The year is 1519. Hernán Cortés and a crew of 600 men had just landed on the shores of Mexico. Their mission was simple: To conquer it. Many better-equipped armies had failed before them, but on landing, Cortés gave an order that was brand new. “Burn the boats,” he...

5 Tips to Create Rest in Your Life

5 Tips to Create Rest in Your Life

What is rest and why is it so important? In Genesis 2, God had just finished creating the earth in six days. On the seventh day, he rested, blessing that seventh day and making it holy, because it was on that day that he rested from all His work (Genesis 2:2-3). Why...

3 Dangerous Lies We All Believe

3 Dangerous Lies We All Believe

If you’ve ever been a kid, you know that most of us have (or at least had) the tendency to realize that some part of our body hurts, then keep poking it and saying “Ow! It hurts!” over and over, as if it would suddenly stop hurting if we poked it enough. It never...

An Open Letter to Single and Dating Women

An Open Letter to Single and Dating Women

To My Single and Dating Friends: Do you know how worthy you are in God’s eyes? Proverbs 31:10 says “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” You are God’s daughter. What higher honor can be bestowed upon us? With that said,...

5 Important Steps to Protect Your Family

5 Important Steps to Protect Your Family

Did you know that on average women live longer than men? This is true for most countries around the world. Most people just dismiss this as a statistic, but there’s actually wisdom here worth acting on. A few years back I heard a story about a man who had just died....

One Vital Thing to Know About God

One Vital Thing to Know About God

Most people like to think that they’re in control of their lives. The hard truth is that we’re not in as much control as we’d like to believe. Sometimes life is hard. We struggle. Things don’t go how we plan. Though we can’t always control our circumstances, we CAN...

The Dangers of a DIY Marriage

The Dangers of a DIY Marriage

What is it about the DIY movement? There’s something about doing things ourselves that is looked so fondly upon by so many in our daily lives. It’s a great thing, but it can be dangerous or even toxic if you apply it to your life or your marriage. The other day while...

How Strong Friendships Inspire Healthy Marriages

How Strong Friendships Inspire Healthy Marriages

Have you ever felt alone? It’s not fun, especially in the hard seasons of life. In contrast, have you ever had someone walk with you through hard times? Ecclesiastes 4:12 talks about the benefits of not walking alone: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend...

How to Goal-Plan for Massive Success

How to Goal-Plan for Massive Success

Planning is one of the most essential tools for success in life, and planning out your marriage goals with your spouse is no exception. Jess and I take some time every year to look back on the previous year and set goals for the future. It’s a pretty small time...

Overcoming Cracks in a Marriage

Overcoming Cracks in a Marriage

9:35 pm. That is approximately when our evening took a dire, drastic turn. We had just spent a lovely, lazy evening in front of the TV and were headed to take a shower. Well, that plan changed drastically when the water started to rise as I was finishing my shower. At...

4 Big Benefits of Goal-Planning

4 Big Benefits of Goal-Planning

If you ask any of our friends, they will likely tell you that we're planners. We like to know what's going on and be prepared. So each year on or near our anniversary, we take an hour or two to look over the past year and plan out our goals for the coming years....

Learning to Be Broken Together

Learning to Be Broken Together

A favorite song of mine is "Broken Together” by Casting Crowns. This will always be a special song for Adam and me. I heard this song for the first time sitting at my parents’ dining room table the day after I had left Adam. This was the first time I had actually sat...

Powerful Marriage Advice from an Accidental Adventure

Powerful Marriage Advice from an Accidental Adventure

You’ve been up since 5 am, flown clear across the country with a few stops at different airports along the way, landed and grabbed a rental car much smaller than the one you reserved, and made it out of the airport just in time to be stuck in rush hour leaving the...

3 Quick Tips to Become a Couple with Clear Purpose

3 Quick Tips to Become a Couple with Clear Purpose

Have you ever finished a really big project with amazing results? I’d be willing to say it started with a goal and followed a plan until it was finished. Most amazing things start with a goal and follow a plan, why should your life be any different? Setting goals as a...

How to Guard Your Marriage Against Decay

How to Guard Your Marriage Against Decay

Decay. When does it happen? Have you ever had a cavity? Do you know exactly what date it appeared? Not when you discovered it, but when it first became a cavity. If you’re like me, you have no idea. I can think back to a range of time, say between the previous dentist...

Why Isn’t God Answering Me?

Why Isn’t God Answering Me?

W hy does it seem that God is sometimes silent? Sometimes when we feel like we need Him the most, is when we feel Him the least. God hears and answers all prayers, but sometimes the answer is “no” or “not yet.” These are the hardest to hear, but often the most...

7 Steps for Working Through Big Changes as a Team

7 Steps for Working Through Big Changes as a Team

Change. It’s probably the most felt thing in our lives. We can choose to embrace it, protest and drag our feet, or pretend it’s not there, but change will happen no matter what. Times of change are often stressful for us as individuals, and, if we’re not careful, that...

Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart

Understanding Your Spouse’s Heart

We all like a kind word or an encouraging note, right? In marriage, we’re our spouse’s biggest fan. We have the power to help them chase their dreams, and also the power to smash them to pieces. It’s a big responsibility, and what we do with it can have lasting...

5 Quick Tips for Building Up Your Spouse

5 Quick Tips for Building Up Your Spouse

You know that feeling when you accomplish something that you didn’t think you could do? Proud accomplishment and a new confidence in yourself are definitely favorites of mine. If you’re anything like me, it’s an exciting moment that you want to share with your spouse....

Encouragement in the Midst of Rejection

Encouragement in the Midst of Rejection

Do you enjoy feeling like a failure? Likely not. Most people don’t. Unfortunately, life’s events often leave us feeling like we don’t measure up. But that’s okay. It’s what we do with those feelings that makes us or breaks us. I’ve been working on a graduate Marriage...

A Husband’s Confession

A Husband’s Confession

I have a confession. I have a tendency to be what some might call a stick in the mud. Webster's defines that as “a person who is dull and unadventurous and who resists change.” Maybe not completely me, but I have some tendencies for sure. A lot of it is rooted in my...

Every Choice Matters

Every Choice Matters

One of my favorite times of the year is when the season begins to switch from cold days into warmer weather. After what felt like the winter that would never end, it was finally going to be warm, so I pulled out my cute blouse that I hadn’t been able to wear for what...

From the Brink of Divorce: A Story of Hope

From the Brink of Divorce: A Story of Hope

Author's note: Abuse is never acceptable. If you're in an abusive situation (or even think you might be) please read Taking a Stand Against Abuse in Your Marriage for steps on how to get help. Numb. That is the best word to describe what I (Jess) was feeling. The...

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