How Do I Voice Frustrations About My Spouse to My Spouse

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How can we handle frustrations with our spouse? Today we talk about how to handle those frustrations that are bound to come up in a marriage. There’s definitely a right way and a wrong way to handle these frustrations, so tune in to learn the right way that values your marriage and your spouse.

Main points:

[0:08] There’s a right way and a wrong way to voice frustrations in a marriage

[0:19] If we handle these frustrations well, they can bring us closer together

[0:42] Criticism is going to attack character, whereas a complaint addresses a behavior.

[2:04] A complaint is going to diffuse and defensiveness

[2:32] Try the formula “I feel _______ when you __________”


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