How to meet sexual and emotional needs in a marriage

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Did you know that a marriage needs both emotional connection and sexual connection to thrive? Join us on the video today as we talk about the needs of both husbands and wives and how to feel connected with one another. Here’s the thing, if we aren’t working to meet each other’s needs, then a subtle disconnect will begin to grow and become bigger and bigger. It’s time to be intentional.

Main points:

[0:25] These won’t be true of every couple, but generally, in order for women to connect sexually, they need to feel connected emotionally. And for men to connect emotionally, they need to feel connected sexually.

[0:55] In God’s perfect plan, this is beautiful because it keeps bringing up back to each other and needing to meet each other’s needs.

[1:15] If pride and selfishness come in, then this can really be a divisive thing in a marriage.

[1:50] There has to be both an emotional connection and a sexual connection for a marriage to be fully complete and thrive.

[2:25] The disconnection when we don’t feel our needs are being met is very subtle.

[3:10] Marriage isn’t 50/50, it’s 100/100 and we both have to work to make sure that both of our needs are getting met.

[3:20] The thing to ask yourself this week is, “How can I go above and beyond this week? What can I do to help my spouse feel connected?”

[4:15] Because the disconnect can be so subtle, we need to be intentional. Intentional about having conversations, intentional about date nights, intentional about time away so that we can connect.

[4:40] Have a weekly check in- How am I doing and how are we doing?


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