Learning to Be Broken Together

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favorite song of mine is “Broken Together” by Casting Crowns. This will always be a special song for Adam and me. I heard this song for the first time sitting at my parents’ dining room table the day after I had left Adam. This was the first time I had actually sat down to process the events of the previous 48 hours.

I have always felt a special connection with God through music; He speaks to me through melody. The song begins with:

“What do you think about when you look at me?
I know we’re not the fairytale you dreamed we’d be.
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle, you took my hand,
And we dove into a mystery”

– Casting Crowns

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I immediately connected with the lyrics. It felt a bit surreal listening to this song at such a vulnerable time in my marriage.  In the middle of me listening to that song, Adam texted me telling me that he was listening to that song and that he thought I should take a look.

We both heard this song at the same time, for the first time, together. I was listening to Pandora and he was listening to K-Love. What are the odds that the exact song would come on at the same time through two different stations and we would listen to it together while being 400 miles apart? Our God is an incredible God. I began sobbing.

This is when I knew that God was watching over us and the He was in control. This was God’s way of letting me know everything was going to be ok. This is the loudest I have ever heard God speak to my heart.

And so our journey began as we started learning to be broken together…

I share this story to tell you this: With God, any marriage can work. When two people are willing to admit their brokenness and submit to each other and to God, miraculous healing happens.

“When two people are willing to admit their brokenness and submit to each other and to God, miraculous healing happens.”

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If your situation feels hopeless, remember that God is with you through everything. He wants to bring healing and beauty. Take your marriage struggles to Him. Ask Him to speak to your heart. Ask Him to guide you with which steps to take. You are not alone in what might feel like a hopeless situation. You are never alone.

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