We published an image of a quote on our social media not too long ago, and it struck me in just how profound it is. The quote, by D.L. Moody, is this: “If I wanted to find out whether a man was a Christian, I wouldn’t go to his minister. I would go and ask his wife...if a man doesn’t treat his wife right, I don’t want to hear him talk about Christianity.” I started to analyze myself through this lens...if I were to ask Jess how I was doing, what would she say? Where am I doing well? Where … [Read more...]
How to Love Your Spouse Through Their Rough Day
There I was in my car in the garage processing through the events of my day. You know those days where everything just seems to go wrong? This was that day. From dropping a smoothie onto the floor in the morning to having a rough interaction with a friend to work being rather difficult. The day just felt like it would never end. I remember feeling completely beaten down and frustrated. I was overwhelmed and depleted. But what do I remember most about that day? I remember Adam … [Read more...]
Building Momentum in Your Marriage
"File:Маховик.jpg"by Vitold Muratov is licensed under CC BY-SA 3.0 Having a great marriage isn’t based on one moment, one action, or one success, but rather a pattern of right actions (and corrected wrong actions) over time. This may seem obvious--doing the right thing is commonly best practice--but the effects are less obvious. It’s the momentum of all of these small actions that keeps a marriage strong through the hard times. In one of my favorite business books, Good to Great, Jim Collins … [Read more...]
9 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband
Husbands, this post is written to wives, but these things hold true for you as well--read on! -Adam L et’s talk about the word respect. As wives, we are called to respect our husbands, but what does this actually mean? In the early months of our marriage, I really struggled with the word “respect”. To be honest, when we were going through all of our struggles, I didn’t feel respect for Adam. I was angry and didn’t think he deserved my respect. Here's the thing though...it didn’t … [Read more...]
#24: Overcoming Betrayal and Broken Trust
Have you ever experienced broken trust or betrayal in your marriage? In today’s episode, we talk about betrayal, broken trust, and how to work towards healing, both individually and as a couple. Betrayal can have damaging consequences, but it doesn’t have to negatively define our marriage. In fact, it can lead to deeper levels of connection if both spouses are submitted to Jesus. If we doubt the possibility for reconciliation, then we put God in a box, doubting the healing power of God. … [Read more...]
The Single Most Powerful Piece of Marriage Advice
B eing passionate about all things in the marriage arena, I've read many books on how to improve your marriage--they have loads of different techniques, tips, and tricks, and so many of them are fantastic and really helpful. But what's at the core of it all? What does it all boil down to? Brass tacks. The net net. The TL;DR. What would it be? If I could only ever give one piece of marriage and/or life advice to everyone and anyone in any and every situation for the rest of my life, it would … [Read more...]
#22: What Makes Christian Marriage Different?
Have you ever thought about what makes Christian marriage different? Or why having a marriage that is founded on God makes all the difference? We’ve talked before about how to make Jesus the center of our marriages and our home, but on today’s podcast episode, we dive into the WHY behind the how. Having Jesus at the core of our marriage grounds us and unites us better than anything else ever could. #22: What Makes Christian Marriage Different? Mentioned in This … [Read more...]
Why “Doing Nothing” Can Actually Help Your Marriage
A few weeks ago, we were exhausted. We had been working a ton, Jess was right in the middle of her school quarter, and life just felt really overwhelming. When I asked Jess what she wanted to do on our day off, we eventually came to the idea of a picnic in a local park. So Jess packed a lunch and we grabbed a blanket and headed off to the park. We sat down and had the first bit of our lunch. Once we had finished, we had the weirdest feeling. The “lunch” checkbox had been checked off in our … [Read more...]
#19: I Thought I Married a Christian–Now What?
Have you or your spouse ever had a crisis of faith? Have you ever had struggles or had to wrestle with Biblical concepts? Many of us will struggle with doubts at some point in our life, but what do we do when we feel a disconnect with our spouse because of doubt? Join us in today’s episode as we dive into what to do when our spouse is struggling with their faith and how to support them on their faith journey! We had so much fun recording this one and hope that you'll be blessed by … [Read more...]
The Secret Weapon Behind Unity
B etween the two of us, Adam is a much better apologizer. He’s much quicker to seek resolution than me and deeply desires to resolve conflict. I find that I tend to sit in my pride and justification for why I think I’m right longer than I ever should. The thing is, the longer I make up self-gratifying excuses for why I’m right, the more bitterness and resentment begin to plague my heart. Pride is scary that way. It can embed its claws into any crevice it can find and the longer we allow it … [Read more...]
