There I was in my car in the garage processing through the events of my day. You know those days where everything just seems to go wrong? This was that day. From dropping a smoothie onto the floor in the morning to having a rough interaction with a friend to work being rather difficult. The day just felt like it would never end. I remember feeling completely beaten down and frustrated. I was overwhelmed and depleted. But what do I remember most about that day? I remember Adam … [Read more...]
7 Game-Changer Questions to Fight Disconnection in Your Marriage
Have you ever gotten to a place in your marriage where you felt completely disconnected from your spouse...and didn't have a clue how you got there? In these times, it can be so easy to ignore the problem and become apathetic. In the moment, ignoring things seems like the better, easier option. However, this will only cause more distance between you and your spouse and more disconnection. The idea that we need to be pursuing our spouse and our marriage is not a new idea. As Ryan Frederick … [Read more...]
10 At-Home Activities to Do as a Couple
Let’s be honest. The past few weeks have been a bit insane. Have you been going a bit stir crazy? Have you craved being with your friends or family? Do you miss hugs? Are you finding yourself losing track of days and time? Us too. In the midst of being under “shelter in place” orders though, we have a beautiful opportunity to be intentional in our marriages and put our homes on a solid footing. Part of using the time well is being intentional with our time together and growing as a … [Read more...]
7 Ways to Grow Your Marriage During COVID
This last week has been insane. I feel like I woke up on Friday last week and the world had started to end. Grocery stores were being emptied, in-person church services had been canceled, schools were closed, and my graduate program was put on hold...and I couldn’t find a single darn roll of toilet paper. The feeling was surreal. I almost feel as if I’ve been placed inside a movie or TV show. I’m waiting for someone to come up to me and say “Just kidding! You’ve been pranked!” Adam and … [Read more...]
9 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband
Husbands, this post is written to wives, but these things hold true for you as well--read on! -Adam L et’s talk about the word respect. As wives, we are called to respect our husbands, but what does this actually mean? In the early months of our marriage, I really struggled with the word “respect”. To be honest, when we were going through all of our struggles, I didn’t feel respect for Adam. I was angry and didn’t think he deserved my respect. Here's the thing though...it didn’t … [Read more...]
#23: When Finances Are Tight
Are you in a place where finances are really tight or have you been? This can be such a difficult place to be in and it can be really difficult to put our marriage as a priority when we are overwhelmed by our finances...or lack thereof. In today’s episode, we tackle how to keep your marriage strong even when it feels like you are being crushed under the pressure that finances can bring. We hope that this episode encourages you and challenges you to keep a God-focused perspective and to … [Read more...]
#21: Keeping Technology from Taking Over
Have you ever found yourself feeling that technology is slowly taking over your home and your marriage? Maybe you have felt like the screen takes precedence over connection with your spouse? With social media, the games, and the constant attention grabbers, it’s sometimes hard to put the screen down. These things aren’t bad in themselves, but we need to be aware of when they start to take over and when they act as a distraction...from our spouse, from life, and from God. Join us on the … [Read more...]
#20: How to Move Forward as a Team When We Disagree
Have you and your spouse ever been in different places about a decision...even when you were thinking about things WAY in the future? We definitely have been. We are planners and tend to want to be on the same page all the time and be able to think years into the future. However, this isn’t necessarily realistic. We aren’t going to be on the same page all the time. We have different ways of processing decisions and we each have our own desires and dreams. Join us on the podcast today as … [Read more...]
5 Marriage Lessons from an Escape Room (!)
A bout a year ago Jess and I went through our first escape room together with a group of friends and family. For those of you that don’t know what an escape room is, it’s a themed room with a sequence of mental puzzles and disguised or hidden solutions. The idea is that you’re trapped in a room and you have to figure out how to escape. One solution often leads to another puzzle. Sometimes there are hidden keys, ciphered combinations, and other tricky things to be solved. Some items are hidden … [Read more...]
How Being “Selfish” Can Help Your Marriage
T here we were, sitting in our bedroom and Jess was sharing with me how she felt that I was distant and a bit on edge with her. She recognized that I was stressed and overwhelmed, and asked me how I was taking care of myself. It was at that moment that I realized that I couldn’t remember the last time I had actually thought about what I needed. She looked at me and said, “Remember to take some time for yourself and allow yourself to recharge”. Okay, let’s be honest, many people think that … [Read more...]
