Husbands, this post is written to wives, but these things hold true for you as well--read on! -Adam L et’s talk about the word respect. As wives, we are called to respect our husbands, but what does this actually mean? In the early months of our marriage, I really struggled with the word “respect”. To be honest, when we were going through all of our struggles, I didn’t feel respect for Adam. I was angry and didn’t think he deserved my respect. Here's the thing though...it didn’t … [Read more...]
#23: When Finances Are Tight
Are you in a place where finances are really tight or have you been? This can be such a difficult place to be in and it can be really difficult to put our marriage as a priority when we are overwhelmed by our finances...or lack thereof. In today’s episode, we tackle how to keep your marriage strong even when it feels like you are being crushed under the pressure that finances can bring. We hope that this episode encourages you and challenges you to keep a God-focused perspective and to … [Read more...]
#21: Keeping Technology from Taking Over
Have you ever found yourself feeling that technology is slowly taking over your home and your marriage? Maybe you have felt like the screen takes precedence over connection with your spouse? With social media, the games, and the constant attention grabbers, it’s sometimes hard to put the screen down. These things aren’t bad in themselves, but we need to be aware of when they start to take over and when they act as a distraction...from our spouse, from life, and from God. Join us on the … [Read more...]
#20: How to Move Forward as a Team When We Disagree
Have you and your spouse ever been in different places about a decision...even when you were thinking about things WAY in the future? We definitely have been. We are planners and tend to want to be on the same page all the time and be able to think years into the future. However, this isn’t necessarily realistic. We aren’t going to be on the same page all the time. We have different ways of processing decisions and we each have our own desires and dreams. Join us on the podcast today as … [Read more...]
5 Marriage Lessons from an Escape Room (!)
A bout a year ago Jess and I went through our first escape room together with a group of friends and family. For those of you that don’t know what an escape room is, it’s a themed room with a sequence of mental puzzles and disguised or hidden solutions. The idea is that you’re trapped in a room and you have to figure out how to escape. One solution often leads to another puzzle. Sometimes there are hidden keys, ciphered combinations, and other tricky things to be solved. Some items are hidden … [Read more...]
How Being “Selfish” Can Help Your Marriage
T here we were, sitting in our bedroom and Jess was sharing with me how she felt that I was distant and a bit on edge with her. She recognized that I was stressed and overwhelmed, and asked me how I was taking care of myself. It was at that moment that I realized that I couldn’t remember the last time I had actually thought about what I needed. She looked at me and said, “Remember to take some time for yourself and allow yourself to recharge”. Okay, let’s be honest, many people think that … [Read more...]
#18: How Our View of God Shapes Our Marriage
Did you know that our belief about God is directly related to how we respond in our marriages? In today’s podcast episode we dive into how our view of God can impact our marriage. So often our feelings overshadow the truth about God’s character and we can start to relate to our spouse based on a false belief of God driven by fear, shame, or guilt. It’s when we have a true understanding of God’s character that our marriage is secured in the strongest foundation possible. We need to … [Read more...]
The Secret Weapon Behind Unity
B etween the two of us, Adam is a much better apologizer. He’s much quicker to seek resolution than me and deeply desires to resolve conflict. I find that I tend to sit in my pride and justification for why I think I’m right longer than I ever should. The thing is, the longer I make up self-gratifying excuses for why I’m right, the more bitterness and resentment begin to plague my heart. Pride is scary that way. It can embed its claws into any crevice it can find and the longer we allow it … [Read more...]
#17: Finding a Strategic Mindset
Did you know that there’s a honeymoon period after a couple gets married that usually lasts one or two years? The honeymoon stage is so much fun and it’s easy to intentionally pursue our spouse when the butterflies are there. The problem is that the transition from infatuation to disconnection can happen so slowly we don’t even realize it. On today’s episode, we dive into why being intentional and keeping a strategic mentality is vital to a thriving marriage. By being intentional and … [Read more...]
#14: The Fear Trap
So, there we were in Idaho really frustrated with one another... We had been talking about moving out of California since we got married and dreaming specifically of Idaho for the last 6 months. We were finally in Idaho to check it out and we were finding that we weren’t on the same page. We were both scared and polarizing each other in the process. What if we couldn’t get on the same page? What if Idaho wasn’t the place we both wanted to move? What if we had to start the process ALL over … [Read more...]
