I t was dinner time when we found out that Washington had issued a “shelter in place” mandate. While we live in Idaho, Adam works in Washington. And Washington was the first of the two to issue the mandate. Like many of you who have these state rules right now, we were (and are) faced with the very real possibility that Adam may face a layoff depending on how long businesses are required to stay closed. The short-term regularity of Adam's paycheck is uncertain, my grad school has been put … [Read more...]
#25: The Beauty of Predictability
Hey everyone, this is the last episode of Season 1! Be sure to subscribe below to hear about all things Season 2! When we walk hand in hand with the Spirit, we become predictable spouses. This means that our character is in line with Christ and we are securing ourselves on His footing. This type of predictable character will help our marriages to flourish. Do you find yourself walking hand in hand, step in step with the Spirit or are you just visiting from time to time? Join us in the … [Read more...]
9 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband
Husbands, this post is written to wives, but these things hold true for you as well--read on! -Adam L et’s talk about the word respect. As wives, we are called to respect our husbands, but what does this actually mean? In the early months of our marriage, I really struggled with the word “respect”. To be honest, when we were going through all of our struggles, I didn’t feel respect for Adam. I was angry and didn’t think he deserved my respect. Here's the thing though...it didn’t … [Read more...]
The Single Most Powerful Piece of Marriage Advice
B eing passionate about all things in the marriage arena, I've read many books on how to improve your marriage--they have loads of different techniques, tips, and tricks, and so many of them are fantastic and really helpful. But what's at the core of it all? What does it all boil down to? Brass tacks. The net net. The TL;DR. What would it be? If I could only ever give one piece of marriage and/or life advice to everyone and anyone in any and every situation for the rest of my life, it would … [Read more...]
#22: What Makes Christian Marriage Different?
Have you ever thought about what makes Christian marriage different? Or why having a marriage that is founded on God makes all the difference? We’ve talked before about how to make Jesus the center of our marriages and our home, but on today’s podcast episode, we dive into the WHY behind the how. Having Jesus at the core of our marriage grounds us and unites us better than anything else ever could. #22: What Makes Christian Marriage Different? Mentioned in This … [Read more...]
Why “Doing Nothing” Can Actually Help Your Marriage
A few weeks ago, we were exhausted. We had been working a ton, Jess was right in the middle of her school quarter, and life just felt really overwhelming. When I asked Jess what she wanted to do on our day off, we eventually came to the idea of a picnic in a local park. So Jess packed a lunch and we grabbed a blanket and headed off to the park. We sat down and had the first bit of our lunch. Once we had finished, we had the weirdest feeling. The “lunch” checkbox had been checked off in our … [Read more...]
6 Ways a Wife Provides for Her Home
I n Christian marriage, we generally view the husband as the provider. And while this is true, wives provide in a marriage too, just in a different way. Husbands are responsible for setting the spiritual direction and the tone for the home, but wives have a vital role to play as well. Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” It is not good for him to be alone. Wives, we are called to be our husband’s … [Read more...]
The Secret Weapon Behind Unity
B etween the two of us, Adam is a much better apologizer. He’s much quicker to seek resolution than me and deeply desires to resolve conflict. I find that I tend to sit in my pride and justification for why I think I’m right longer than I ever should. The thing is, the longer I make up self-gratifying excuses for why I’m right, the more bitterness and resentment begin to plague my heart. Pride is scary that way. It can embed its claws into any crevice it can find and the longer we allow it … [Read more...]
4 Powerful Biblical Truths about Marriage
W hen we first get married, everything seems perfect. It seems as if the love that we share will sustain us. It seems as if we will be able to work through any argument with ease, that the butterflies will never fade, and our spouse will never be able to let us down. If you’ve been married any length of time, you know that this just isn’t the case. Marriage is wonderful and beautiful, but that beauty takes work. To have an intimate marriage that reflects the love of Jesus, we have to deal … [Read more...]
7 Steps to Achieve Best-Friend Status with your Spouse
O ne of the most profound things I have ever heard was the idea that after 30, 50, or 70 years together, we hopefully will not only still love our spouse, but still like them too. This idea really caught me off guard the first time I heard it. Wouldn’t the goal be to love our spouse? Isn’t liking them natural and love more difficult? While the Bible calls us to love our spouse, we are not called to like them. “Liking” our spouse is a feeling, whereas “loving” them is a choice. And “liking” is … [Read more...]
