Did you know that there’s a honeymoon period after a couple gets married that usually lasts one or two years? The honeymoon stage is so much fun and it’s easy to intentionally pursue our spouse when the butterflies are there. The problem is that the transition from infatuation to disconnection can happen so slowly we don’t even realize it. On today’s episode, we dive into why being intentional and keeping a strategic mentality is vital to a thriving marriage. By being intentional and … [Read more...]
6 Simple Steps to Keep your Marriage a Priority
W hen Adam and I first got married, we knew that we wanted a good marriage. We had visions of ourselves dancing at our grandkids’ weddings and laughing in rocking chairs on our porch when we were 85. While this was a great ideal, it didn’t become a goal until we hit rock bottom and had to make a choice about whether we were going to fight for our marriage or whether we were going to let it wither away. Thankfully, God spoke to both of us, shifted our hearts, and restored our marriage. Now, … [Read more...]
#16: Combating the Enemy as a Team
You ready for a BIG truth? The enemy wants to destroy your marriage. As a united team, you pose a threat. Separately, you're less of a threat. His mission is to separate you and your spouse by enhancing feelings of shame, guilt, and pride. On today’s podcast, we talk about how destructive the “DIY” mentality can be with marriage, and dive into HOW to keep your marriage strong, combating the enemy from an offensive position. Let’s do this. #16: Combating the Enemy as a … [Read more...]
4 Powerful Biblical Truths about Marriage
W hen we first get married, everything seems perfect. It seems as if the love that we share will sustain us. It seems as if we will be able to work through any argument with ease, that the butterflies will never fade, and our spouse will never be able to let us down. If you’ve been married any length of time, you know that this just isn’t the case. Marriage is wonderful and beautiful, but that beauty takes work. To have an intimate marriage that reflects the love of Jesus, we have to deal … [Read more...]
#14: The Fear Trap
So, there we were in Idaho really frustrated with one another... We had been talking about moving out of California since we got married and dreaming specifically of Idaho for the last 6 months. We were finally in Idaho to check it out and we were finding that we weren’t on the same page. We were both scared and polarizing each other in the process. What if we couldn’t get on the same page? What if Idaho wasn’t the place we both wanted to move? What if we had to start the process ALL over … [Read more...]
#12: Money and Marriage (Shaunti Feldhahn)
Have you ever been really frustrated with your spouse about money? So many couples don’t talk about their money and see it as a taboo subject. Today on the podcast, Shaunti Feldhahn unwraps the why behind struggles around money in marriage. She gives us an exclusive look and dives into her latest research about how men and women operate differently. We talk with her about the importance of understanding one another, being trustworthy, and the meaning of oneness with our finances. We had … [Read more...]
Pillow Talk: God’s Design for Sex
I’ve often heard husbands using bible verses to guilt their wives into sex, saying that their wife isn’t following what the bible says if they don’t submit to them sexually. I’ve also heard of wives using sex (or the lack of) to punish or reward their husbands for being their definition of a good husband. When sex becomes selfish or manipulative, the results are disastrous, turning sex into something trivial and meaningless. But this isn’t God’s design. Sex is incredibly intimate and beautifully … [Read more...]
#11: Building a Christ-Centered Marriage
Any pastor will tell you that keeping Jesus at the center is the key to having a marriage that will stand the test of time. But why is that the case and what does that really look like? Today on the podcast we’ll dive into the reasons why having Jesus at the center is crucial to having a strong, intimate marriage and what that practically looks like. We had a great time recording this one and we are so excited for you to listen in! #11: Building a Christ-Centered Marriage Mentioned … [Read more...]
Choosing Thankfulness over Frustration
If you’ve read my previous blog, you know I tend to analyze things to death, often focusing solely on the flaws. After writing that blog, I saw another important lesson that I missed the first time. Not only do I often see the worst in myself, but I tend to see the worst in my wife far more often than I would like to admit. The same is true in many marriages--the little things grate on you after a while, then you have a choice to make--will you focus on the negative or the positive? I have … [Read more...]
#9: Overcoming the Loss of a Child (Kim & Larry Peacock)
This week on the podcast, we had the pleasure of talking with Kim and Larry Peacock. They opened up about the sudden loss of their daughter and how they kept their marriage strong during the crisis and in the years since. We talk about how to work through trauma, what the healing process might look like when you and your spouse grieve differently, and how to keep God's perspective. They are an amazing couple who have kept the focus on Jesus and are allowing Him to use their story to bring Him … [Read more...]