We all know that conflict happens in a marriage, but have you ever thought about how to be proactive about conflict? Join us on the video today as we talk about how to proactively prepare for conflict and how to handle it in a way that will honor each other. It’s all about preparation and self-responsibility.
Main points:
[0:11 Set up ground rules for how you’re going to handle an argument.
[0:22] Conflict can be healthy for a marriage, but we have to do it in a way that honors our spouse.
[0:30] Setting up ground rules aligns our expectations for how we should treat each other in a conflict.
[0:35] Ground rules also help us to know when we go off course and where we need to come back to.
[1:05] Types of ground rules: our words are going to be respectful, we’re not going to call each other names, our body language and tone of voice will be respectful, we will seek to understand and not to be understood, no technology to avoid the conflict, time limit on space…
[2:50] Breaking the ground rules is an automatic foul
[3:10] Part of the problem in conflict is that it rarely ends up being just about the thing itself. It ends up being about how we reacted to one another. Ground rules help to keep this in check.
[3:55] Take time this week to look at your conflict and come up with the ground rules that your marriage needs as a team.
[5:15] Take responsibility and hold yourself responsible for following the rules.
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