When conflict gets out of hand…

by |

We all know that conflict happens in a marriage, but have you ever thought about how to be proactive about conflict? Join us on the video today as we talk about how to proactively prepare for conflict and how to handle it in a way that will honor each other. It’s all about preparation and self-responsibility.
 

Main points:

[0:11 Set up ground rules for how you’re going to handle an argument.

[0:22] Conflict can be healthy for a marriage, but we have to do it in a way that honors our spouse.

[0:30] Setting up ground rules aligns our expectations for how we should treat each other in a conflict.

[0:35] Ground rules also help us to know when we go off course and where we need to come back to.

[1:05] Types of ground rules: our words are going to be respectful, we’re not going to call each other names, our body language and tone of voice will be respectful, we will seek to understand and not to be understood, no technology to avoid the conflict, time limit on space…

[2:50] Breaking the ground rules is an automatic foul

[3:10] Part of the problem in conflict is that it rarely ends up being just about the thing itself. It ends up being about how we reacted to one another. Ground rules help to keep this in check.

[3:55] Take time this week to look at your conflict and come up with the ground rules that your marriage needs as a team.

[5:15] Take responsibility and hold yourself responsible for following the rules.

Links:

Want to join the mission and support what God is doing with Radiant Marriage? Check out our Patreon page.

Want to strengthen your marriage? Check out our free 16 lesson course, Radiant Marriage Academy.

Want to dig deeper?

Check out Radiant Marriage Academy, our free 16-lesson course!

Tiptoes

(Fully free. No catch.)

adam & Jess

Hi, we’re Adam & Jess--we’re so glad you’re here!

Our marriage got off to a rocky start in 2014 and quickly escalated into a full-out crisis. God healed us, and now we're inviting you to walk with us as we all journey toward healthier marriages together!

7 Days to an Awesome Marriage

Check out our free eBook and connect with your spouse!


7 Days to a More Intimate Marriage

Follow Us

When we need to make a decision…

Have you ever found that making decisions as a team can be a bit difficult? We hear you! Jobs, where to live, finances, moving, parenting... the amount of major decisions that we have to make in our lives can be overwhelming. So, how can we make decisions well as a...

When I’m right and my spouse is wrong…

What can we do in those situations where we feel that we are right and our spouse is wrong? It can be so difficult to handle these situations well! Join us on the video today as we talk about how to work through conversations where we feel that we’re right. It might...

When my spouse is pushing some of my buttons…

Do you find that you have expectations and struggle when those expectations aren’t met or when your spouse doesn’t maybe handle things like you would like them to? Join us on the video today as we talk about how expectations and rigidity impact our marriage and what...

When my spouse and I are on two different planets speaking completely different languages…

Have you ever been in a conversation with your spouse where you felt like you weren’t on the same page and that you were speaking different languages? It can be so frustrating and can feel completely overwhelming. Join us on today’s video as we talk about how to move...

When tensions have increased and giving grace to my spouse is difficult…

Have you ever found yourself in a stressful season of life? Maybe the conflicts with your spouse increased during this season? Maybe you’re in this season right now. We hear you and we see you. It can be really difficult to handle marriage and life’s stressful events....

When conflict is overwhelming and I need space…

Do you or your spouse like to take space in conflict? Is this handled well or is this something that is becoming a wedge between you and your spouse? Join us on today’s video as we talk about the benefits of taking space and how to take space in a way that values your...

Strive to be a Threat

You may have seen our motto “strive to be a threat”. Does this phrase confuse you? In this video, we talk about what “strive to be a threat” actually means and how it is an impactful mindset to have in our marriages. Here’s what it comes down to: Our marriage is the...

When I’m frustrated with my spouse so much of the time…

It can be so easy to focus on the irritations with our spouse. But this is a sure-fire way to have a marriage that is critical and self-focused. And we don't want that, do we? Of course not. In today's video, we talk about how to be flexible with our spouse and give...

When we’re stuck in marriage struggles and don’t know what to do…

In this video, we talk about the importance of counseling and how it can be transforming to your marriage. Here’s the deal--we don’t know what we don’t know and counseling can help us to dig up rough spots and bring light to them before they become wedges in our...

The Harmful Effects of Pornography

We live in a world where pornography is widely accepted. There are even many who would say that it can help the intimacy between a husband and a wife. This is a lie. Join us on today's video as we talk about how and why pornography can harm your marriage. This is such...

Want to build an awesome marriage?

Get started with Radiant Marriage Academy, a 16-lesson online course to help you build an awesome marriage.

The best part? Thanks to our patrons, it's completely FREE. No credit card. No upsell. No catch. Just great, free marriage tools to help you make your marriage awesome.

You have Successfully Subscribed!

Pin It on Pinterest