In this video, we talk about the importance of counseling and how it can be transforming to your marriage. Here’s the deal–we don’t know what we don’t know and counseling can help us to dig up rough spots and bring light to them before they become wedges in our marriages.
Main points:
[0:45] Often we don’t know what we don’t know and we can get stuck.
[1:08] Having a neutral third party to help you through stuck conflict can be immensely helpful.
[1:50] We all have stuff that we’re going to need to work through…past relationships, trauma, struggles, unresolved emotions etc.
[2:08] Start early and don’t wait until your marriage is in crisis.
[2:25] Counseling is NOT just for crisis couples. If anything, counselors prefer that you come in early (so that you’re not having to work through damage control) and, instead, getting more quickly to the root of the problem.
[3:40] In those times of conflict, a counselor can help you to figure out truth versus feelings and be able to help you see your spouse in the midst of it.
[5:10] Counseling can be scary because we have to be vulnerable and open and talk about emotions that we don’t want to talk about.
[6:15] If you’re having hesitation about moving forward in counseling, ask yourself the questions “Why? What is the hesitation? Is this a pride issue or a fear issue?”
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